What are the proper social conventions when addressing invitations?

Today’s different social lifestyles can add lots of complication.  Are you confused about how to properly address your invitations?

Use these social conventions when addressing your wedding invitations:

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Divorcee:

Ms. Jane Doe

When addressing a woman who has been divorced, it is customary to honor whatever name she goes by, using the prefix Ms.

 

Widow:

Example:  Mrs. Jane Doe

When addressing a widow, user her full married name.

 

Cohabitation:

Example:

Mr. David Day

Ms. Jane Doe

If there are two unmarried people who live together, list their names on two separate lines alphabetically.

 

Doctor:

Example:  Dr. Mary Anderson & Mr. Richard Evans

Whichever of the married couple is a doctor, he or she is listed first.

 

Married Doctors:

Example:  The Doctors Jackson

Or

Example:

Dr. Amy Jackson

Dr. Jason Jackson

If the couple happens to both be doctors you can choose between either example.  You can list them as The Doctors Jackson or on two separate lines alphabetically by first name.
Couples of the Same Sex:

Example:  Ms. Betty Black & Ms. Linda White

Or

Example:

Ms. Betty Black

Ms. Linda White

In the case of a same sex couple, list both names on one line, or, if they don’t fit, on separate lines, alphabetically by first name.

The Marriage License

Marriage License PhotoThe Number One Priority in the wedding process is getting the marriage license – without the license there can be no wedding! In Missouri the wedding license is issued by the Recorder of Deeds and this license is only valid in Missouri. Both parties must appear before the Recorder of Deed and provide valid identification containing date of birth along with a social security card.

All parties must be at least 18 years of age, and if younger than that they must have custodial parent or guardian approval. All parties under the age of 15 must apply for a circuit court order.

Applicants for a license must not be married already and may not be related by blood (through and including First Cousins).

This license must be obtained prior to the wedding ceremony, and the officiant must have the license prior to the ceremony. If there is no marriage within 30 days, the license is voided. After the marriage, the officiant returns the license to the Recorder of Deeds.

Following are the address and location of the various counties around this area:

License SigningST. LOUIS CITY Recorder of Deeds, Sharon Quigley Carpenter, City Hall, 1200 Market St., Rm. 126, St. Louis, MO 63103 (314) 622-4393 sqc@stlouiscityrecorder.org

ST. LOUIS COUNTY Recorder of Deeds*, Janice M. Hammonds, Lawrence K. Roos County Government Center, 41 S. Central Ave., Fourth Fl., Clayton, MO 63105 (314) 615-7178 jhammonds@stlouisco.com

ST. CHARLES COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Barbara J. Hall, County Administration Bldg., 201 N. Second St., Ste. 338, St. Charles, MO 63301 (636) 949-7505

FRANKLIN COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Sharon L. Birkman Franklin County Administration Bldg., 400 E. Locust, Rm. 102, Union, MO 63084 (636) 583-6367; FAX (636) 583-7330

JEFFERSON COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Marlene Castle, Jefferson County Administration Center, PO Box 100, 729 Maple St., Hillsboro, MO 63050 (636) 797-5414; FAX (636) 797-6310 mcastle@jeffcomo.org

LINCOLN COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Dottie D. Crenshaw Lincoln County Courthouse, 201 Main St., Troy, MO 63379 (636) 528-6300 249

WARREN COUNTY Clerk Circuit Court and ex officio Recorder of Deeds, Jerri Jordan 104 W. Main St., Warrenton, MO 63383 (636) 456-3363; FAX (636) 456-2422

BOONE COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Bettie Johnson Boone County Government Center, 801 E. Walnut, Rm. 132, Columbia, MO 65201 (573) 886-4345; FAX (573) 886-4359 bjohnson@boonecountymo.org

CALLAWAY COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Ken Dillon CallawayCounty Courthouse, 10 E. Fifth St., PO Box 406, Fulton, MO 65251 (573) 642-0787 calrecord@callawaycounty.org

CAMDEN COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Donnie Snelling 1 Court Circle NW, Ste. 5, Camdenton, MO 65020 (573) 317-3880; FAX (573) 346-8367 donnie_snelling@camdenmo.org

CAPE GIRARDEAU COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Janet Fenimore Robert Cape Girardeau County Administration Bldg., 1 Barton Sq. PO Box 248, Jackson, MO 63755 (573) 243-8123; FAX (573) 204-2477 jfrobert@capecounty.us

COLE COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Larry D. Rademan Cole County Courthouse Annex, 311 E. High St., PO Box 353, Jefferson City 65101; (573) 634-9115; FAX (573) 634-4631

GASCONADE COUNTY Clerk Circuit Court and ex officio Recorder of Deeds, Joyce Gabathuler Gasconade County Courthouse, 119 E. First St., Ste. 6, Hermann, MO 65041 (573) 486-2632; FAX (573) 486-5812 joyce.gabathuler@courts.mo.gov

PIKE COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, Sherry McCarty Pike County Courthouse, 115 W. Main, Bowling Green, MO 63334 (573) 324-5567

ST. GENEVIEVE COUNTY Recorder of Deeds, David Gegg Ste. Genevieve County Courthouse, 55 S.Third, Ste. Genevieve, MO 63670 (573) 883-2706; FAX (573) 883-5312 recorder63670@yahoo.Com

It is suggested that YOU CALL to confirm hours of service, because some offices require licenses to be picked up by 3PM.

Top Wedding Locations for Photos

Ferreira-442Do you have a favorite location in mind for your wedding photos?  Yes, we all know about the Arch and the Stadium, but what about something a little different?  Do you have a beautiful overview or street location?   Write to us at bride@BrideStLouis.com and let us know what you think.  We will composite your ideas and share those with you in the next few weeks.

Wedding Planning – Important Dates for 2013 to keep in mind

Let’s talk a little about scheduling your wedding and potential booking dates.

If you are on a tight budget there are some dates you will want to avoid and if you choose a date around a Holiday, you might find your favorite vendor already booked!  And then there are some dates that could be just fun.  Let’s take a look at the calendar.

December 31st (2012) and/orJanuary 1st

  • New Year’s Eve/Day
  • This can be a fun date – and it’s one that’s easy to remember.

January 18th, 19th, 20, 21st

  • Martin Luther King Day Weekend
  • A wedding on Friday or Sunday gives your guest an extra travel day.

February 14th

  • Valentine’s Day – Thursday
  • Great for the romantic.  However, florist are super busy that day, and you might pay more for those red roses.

February 15th, 16th, 17th 18th

  • President’s Day
  • Here’s another long weekend potential.

March 30th & 31st

  • Easter Saturday and Easter Sunday
  • Many churches will not perform weddings on these busy days.

May 11th and May 12th

  • Mother’s Day Weekend
  • It’s a beautiful time of the year, not too hot yet.
  • You might want to check this out with your Mom’s first.

May 24th, 25th, 26th, and 27th

  • Memorial Day Weekend.
  • This is a BIG wedding weekend.
  • These dates book FAST – sometimes 2 years in advance.
  • Vendors know that they can book these dates – so don’t look for price deals.

June Weekends

  • Very Busy – This month ties with October as the most popular month.

June 15th and June 16th

  • Father’s Day Weekend

July 4th, 5th, 6th, and 7th

  • Independence Day and Weekend
  •  This is another big weekend.
  • It’s generally HOT so indoor weddings are a must.
  • Great weekend if you have lots of out-of-town guests.

August 31st, Sept. 1st & Sept. 2nd

  • Labor Day Weekend
  • Another great weekend if you have lots of out-of-town guests.

September & October Weekends

  • Extremely popular in the St. Louis Area
  • Great time for those Wine Vineyard Weddings
  • Ties with June as most popular month

October 12th, 13th and 14th

  • Columbus Day Weekend
  • Generally great weather – mild days & cooler nights.

October 31st

  • Halloween – Thursday

November 9, 10th and 11th

  • Veterans’ Day Weekend
  • Many to-be-brides forget about this great weekend.
  • We generally still have some color outdoors for photos.

November 28th, 29th and 30th and December 1st

  • Thanksgiving Day Weekend
  • These dates usually book fast.

December 31st –

  • New Year’s Eve

Also, be mindful of religious and cultural holidays (Passover, Rosh Hashanah, Hanukkha, Yom Kippur, Christmas, Kwanzaa). when planning your wedding.  There may be restrictions at your house of worship.

And if your family is deeply involved in sports – avoid weekends with the Super Bowl, Final Four March Madness, and perhaps some local college games as well.

And finally, for number  “13” fans – you have 4/13/13, 7/13/13, 9/13/13, 10/13/13 and 12/13/13.

Rent a Tux OR Buy a Suit?

Wedding SuitGroomsmen are generally expected to rent at their own expense their tux, shoes, etc.  Most rentals end up being anywhere from $120.00 to $150.00, and more for the finer materials.  Another option is to buy a tux, but few people really have need of a tux more than a few times in their life, so that option is not a good financial choice.

A new trend that makes a lot of sense these days is for the groom and groomsmen to buy a new suit.  The great thing about this option is that the groom and groomsmen will get plenty of use out of a nice suit later, and if you’re out $150.00 or so already, why not apply that money towards a purchase.  Some guys feel a little awkward wearing a tux that they don’t know where it’s been and if your wedding is out of town, there is no rush to return that rental.

It’s not for every wedding, but it might be something to consider.

Great Weddings on a Budget: Tip #1

Wedding CakieWedding cakes come in many shapes, forms, and sizes, and are priced based on the amount of work that it takes to create them. Some brides are choosing a smaller wedding cake instead of a five tier monster.  A three tier cake can be displayed with elegance, and then you could cut guest slices from a regular sheet cake that’s waiting back in the kitchen.