Some things to consider before you say “I Do”

 

Before you get married……

 

If you want to live together “happily ever after” there are a few things you should know about each other before you tie the knot.

First – Know Who You Are

Know who you are and what you want from life before getting married.  If you want to focus on a career, have kids, travel a lot….be sure to talk about these things prior to getting married.  You don’t have to agree on everything.  You just need to understand what each of you want and expect in a marriage.

Second – Know that you can’t change him (her)

The truth is what you see is what you get.  People will change, but only if THEY want to.

What’s his financial status?

Sharing space has its own challenges.  Sharing expenses can lead to hurt feelings and bad relationships.   Be sure to discuss together how you plan to handle finances together.   This is where total honesty is important.  Don’t hide your credit problems from each other.  Additionally you will want to have a clear picture of what each person desires – a nice home, a new car, etc.  Are you a saver?  Does he spend like crazy?  Be sure to acknowledge your partner’s goals and bad habits when it comes to making and spending money.

Knowing your partner’s priorities can help eliminate squabbles after you are married and lead to a long term, loving, and caring for each other relationship.  Having someone to cuddle up and knowing there’s someone who loves you no matter what is what marriage is all about.

Third –

A good marriage must be created.

In marriage the “little” things are the big things.

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say, ”I love you” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is standing together and facing the world.

It is speaking words of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is not only marrying the right person — it is being the right partner

 

5 Bridal Bouquet Tips to Consider

 

Your bridal bouquet is a keepsake that should be carefully selected.   What flowers should you include in your bouquet?  What color or shapes work best with your theme and dress?  Should you select a cascade arrangement or a hand-tied bouquet?  So, if you are totally unprepared to work with your florist, here are some suggestions to help you when ordering your bouquet.

  1. Know the type or theme of your wedding, and ideally choose your wedding dress first.
  2. The design of the bouquet should complement your dress, not drown you or hide the silhouette. Do not opt for a trailing bouquet if the detail of your dress is on the front lower portion, but if you have a long train or bustle at the back of your dress you might want to balance the look with a more dramatic bouquet.  Also, don’t hide your waist – make sure your bouquet is much narrower than your waist.
  3. Choose flowers that are in season to control costs.
  4. Wedding dresses today are sometimes ivory or cream, so take a swatch along if you have it to choose the perfect shade and exact color of your flowers.
  5. If you have a family heirloom such as an antique brooch, work that into the bouquet.

 

And if you love your bouquet, consider having it preserved!

Saving Money for Your Bridesmaids

Asking your friend or relative to be a bridesmaid is asking them to invest in your relationship as a friend.   It’s expensive.  And I’ve encountered girls who have participated in three or four weddings in one year!

So, be a good friend and help her financially as well when it comes time to purchase her dress.   We all want to look our best, so instead of picking out a specific dress, let them decide on a style within your designated color.   There are lots of different styles, and generally we all know what style suits our body shape the best.    Your gals can shop within their budget and find the dress in which they will truly shine. Suggest they shop end of the season sales to get some great deals.   And many brides are going with the shorter “knee” length dress because not only does it save money, but those dresses can more likely be worn again for other functions.

Everything you Need to Know about Buying a Wedding Dress

 

As a young girl, you probably have always dreamed or at least thought of your wedding day.  And every girl when they get their ring wants to start wedding dress shopping.  However, once you start, you will quickly understand how overwhelming it can be.  With thousands of dresses and styles available, you can go crazy!  So, let’s break down wedding dress shopping with everything you need to know.

Schedule an Appointment

Most bridal shops prefer you make an appointment because the shop attendant who is working closely with you will help select styles and sizes.  Walk-in are always welcomed, but you might find yourself in the store when it is extremely busy, and your stylist may not be able to give you the time and attention you really should have.  Saturdays are the most popular day for brides-to-be to shop, so you might want to schedule a weekday.

Know Your Wedding Date

If you are purchasing a dress that will be made only after you purchase it, you need between four and seven months for your dress to arrive.  If you are buying “off the rack” you need only allow enough time for tailoring the dress to fit you perfectly, anywhere from one to two months.  So – know your wedding date when you shop.

Understand Dress Terms

To communicate clearly with your stylist, get familiar with wedding dress terms like silhouette, sweetheart neckline, bustles, etc.

Have a Budget Range

Know your price range than you are willing to spend and share that with your stylist.  By creating a range, your stylists can select dresses on either end of the budget and you will get a good array of dresses to try on.

Budget Price Ranges:  $100-$500 and $500 – $1000

Moderate Price Range:  $1000 – $1500

Quality Price Range: $1500 – $2500

High End Price Range: $2500 – $4000

Couture: $4000 and Up

Who & What to Bring With You

The more people you have at your shopping trip will result in more opinions and more chaos.  Select a few special people whose opinion you value and cap it at about three or four individuals.  Bring along any photos of dresses that you really like (just 2 or 3) and don’t forget to bring your undergarments and shoes that you will wear that day.

Your Bridesmaids will Love You!

BrideStLouis – Tulle Skirts

Your bridesmaids will love you!  Take a look at these wedding party mix and match tulle skits available in any number of colors.  These tulle shirts can be paired with almost anything post-wedding too!  Your bridesmaids can choose whatever style of top they like as well.

We found some on Etsy at WardrobeByDulcinea.  They consist of 10 layers of snow white tulle with dip dyed bottom and available in 28 colors or request a custom color.  See more pitures and read more about this piece here http://allthingsdulcinea.com/wedding-collection/

Other designers of tulle skirts can be found on etsy as well.

Photo Album or Photo Book

Weddings are a milestone in life and there’s no better way to keep those memories of that special day that a quality Photo Album or Photo Book.  So, what’s the difference between a Photo Album and a Photo Book you ask?   Here’s the difference.

One of the most obvious differences between Albums and Books is the paper type.  Photo Album photos are printed on photo paper and is protected by a UV coating.  It is then reinforced by a premium substrate that makes the pages rigid, thus insuring that the finished product has long-term durability.   Some companies offer both “thin” and “thick” width substrates.  Depending on the width of each individual page, about 50 to 100 pages are usually the maximum number of pages available.

Photo Books are printed directly onto press paper.  Some companies use a coated paper or others use a variety of specialty papers.   Since Photo Book pages do not include a substrate more pages can fit into a Photo Book than an Album.  You can generally include anywhere from 50 to 200 pages in a single classic style book.

Finally, the price point is another difference.  Photo Books are generally less expensive.

Regardless of which option you choose, the most important decision is getting those memories off the CD and making sure that those memories are preserved for a lifetime.  Technology changes rapidly and you might find yourself without those images in a few years.