Wedding Gratuity Guide

Wedding Reception at Hermann Hill by BrideStLouis.com

 

Tipping vendors and wedding providers isn’t always mandatory, but I can guarantee that they always appreciated it when you do tip.  Many vendors put their heart and soul into making your day the very best possible.  If they have done a good job for you and the service was exceptional, just do it.   To keep your day running smoothly pass the tipping duties to someone such as your best man, friend or parents.

Also appreciated is a quick personal note thanking them for their service.

 

Here are some guidelines:

Hair Stylist/Makeup Artist – 15% to 20%, 30% if done on site.

Ceremony Musician – $15 to $20 per person.

DeeJay – $50 – $150.

On-Site Coordinator – 15 to 20% of the event fee.   (However, – sometimes this is automatically added to your final bill.

Wait Staff/Bartenders – $10 to $20 per person if not included in your total price.

Photographer – $50 – $100.

Officiant – $50-$100

Rental Delivery People – $5 to $10 per person (leave with site manager the day before).

Wedding Planner – 10% to 20% of the total service cost.

12 Great Tips from Previous Brides about their Big Day

Wedding Planning by BrideStLouis

 

We recently had a wonderful opportunity to speak with brides who not long ago tied the knot, and we asked them what they recommend (as well as not recommend) the day of the wedding or just a few days before the wedding. Here are some of their suggestions:

Watch what you eat. If you know that certain foods can cause stomach upset, avoid those the day before the wedding. There is nothing worse than getting sick on your wedding day.

Don’t get a sunburn! Plan a relaxing day – but stay out of the sun if you tend to burn. All your photos will have you looking like a lobster!

Don’t party or drink too much! Get good rest before your big day. There is nothing worse than having a hangover the next day and trying to be happy.

Be sure to enjoy some “quiet time” right before your wedding. This is a big day and it’s nice to have time to reflect on the importance of this day. This includes not greeting people right before the wedding – there will be plenty of time after the ceremony.

Don’t worry about the choices you have made – it’s done. Go with the flow. You selected your hair, dress, and all the details because they looked good! You will look great! Smile – and enjoy the day!

DO drink WATER. Lots of water. It’s great for your complexion.

Remember that all things might not go as planned. No wedding is perfect. (Last year, I attended a wedding where the officiant forgot to do the ring exchange!)

The biggest surprise for many brides is that they do not have much time to sit and eat at their reception. Many brides and grooms ordered room service later just because they didn’t really get to eat.

The wedding day will fly by fast. No matter how many people tell you this, most brides tell us that they can’t believe how fast the day went. Really relax and enjoy every moment of the day and truly soak in the wonderful feeling of your day.

Spend more time with your new hubby. I spent the morning with my mom, the day with my bridesmaids, and really didn’t spend enough time with my husband during the reception. It was “our” day, but looking back, it really wasn’t.

Have a plan for the end of the reception. Designate someone to take home all your gifts, card box, and other mementos. If you are changing out of your gown before going to the hotel, have someone take it home for you.

Don’t sweat the small stuff and embrace the moments.

Selecting the Best Wedding Dress for Your Body Style

 

Selecting a wedding dress is more than just a fitting.  It’s selecting the right type for your body shape.  What’s follows is a guide to selecting the right silhouette for your body type.  This allows you to find the best figure flattering wedding gown.  Petite, tall, thin, plus size – here is your go to for choosing your dream wedding dress.

And it’s selecting the right color as well.  If your skin color is cool, with pink undertones and you favor silver jewelry, bright white is a good choice.  If your skin tone is warm, with peachy undertones and you look best in gold accessories, you best choice is an off-white gown.

 

 

Selecting by Silhouette/Body Type

 

If your shape is an inverted triangle:

Measurements:  Bust is larger than your hips and your waist is well defined.

What to look for:  You want to look for ways to add definition to your waist and hips.  An excellent way to accomplish this is with a strapless, scoop, rounded, V-Neck or plunging necklines with a narrow bodice and fuller skirt.

Best Dress Shape:  A-Line, Empire, and Ball Gown.

If your shape is an hourglass:

Measurements:  Bust and hips are the same measurement and you have a defined waist.

What to look for:  Styles that enhance your natural curves.

Best Dress Shape:  A-Line, Empire, Sheath, Ball Gown, and Mermaid.  Corset bodices and strapless or off the shoulder necklines are great choices!

If your shape is a rectangle:

Measurements:  Bust and hips are the same measurement.  Waist is slightly smaller than the bust and hips.

What to look for:  Ways to add definition to your chest and waist.  A good way to do this is with a beaded neckline or bodice with a gathered or embellished waist.

Best Dress Shape:  A-Line, Empire, and Ball Gown.

What to Avoid:  Sheaths and other clingy styles.

If your shape is rounded:

Measurements:  Large bust, narrow hips, and a full midsection.

What to look for:  Ways to add definition to your upper body and chest.

Best Dress Shape:  A-Line of Empire.  A deep V-neck sweetheart or scoop neckline, high straps or a halter top style neckline.

What to Avoid:  Styles that emphasize the waist or hip area. 

If your shape is a triangle:

Measurements:  Bust is narrower than hips.  Waist is slight smaller than hips.

What to look for:  Styles that enhances bodice and defines the waist.  Beaded necklines are great options!

Best Dress Shapes:  A-Line and Ball Gown.

What to Avoid:  Avoid making your shoulders look broad.  Avoid boat necks, spaghetti straps and puffy sleeves.

If your shape is a diamond:

Measurements:  Waist is larger than bust and hips.

What to look for:  Ways to add definition to upper body and chest.  An excellent way to accomplish this is with embellishment on the bodice or neckline to add more volume to your bustline.

Best Dress Shapes:  Empire or Sheath.

What to Avoid:  Thin straps and dresses with waist detailing as this will accentuate your broader waist.

CHOOSE A STYLE that compliments your personality as well:

  • Fit & Flare – Your style is both contemporary and traditional.  You have a girly figure and love to socialize.
  • Mermaid – Glamour defines you.  You have curves and love to show them off.
  • Tea Length – Understated elegance is your thing
  • Sheath – You dig anything retro.  You tend to be taller and have great legs.
  • Ball Gown -You are a princess and want to be the star attraction.

 

Information provided by our guest blogger:

Emalyia Klemmer, CEO/Designer

Osio Mita LLC

www.osiomitasignature.com

Venues that Allow Outside Catering

A lot of brides have asked us if we could provide a list of venues that allow outside caterers.  We found these choices – from community spaces to elegant historic homes. Some of these venues have “preferred” catering companies while others allow you the freedom to choose your own.   If you book one of these venues, be sure to tell the venue that you found them through BrideStLouis.com.

Be aware that some venues do charge extra fees for non-preferred catering.  Some are reasonable and some are extremely high.  All will require proof of insurance and other such documents that a good business caterer should have no problem producing.

If you know of other venues that allow Outside Catering, please write us at bride@bridestlouis.com and let us know so that we can share with others.

 

Top 2 Reasons to Hire a Professional Photographer – It’s a decision you won’t regret!

Wedding Photography

The most precious day of your life is surely your wedding. You want to ensure that every moment of your special day is captured in a unique and beautiful manner.   I have heard from many couples after the fact about their poor decision in hiring a friend or family member to do the job.   Their failures and inexperience lead to your heart ache and disappointment, and unfortunately you will never be able to capture that moment of time again.  You have spent thousands of dollars to have a one-of-a-kind unforgettable wedding and when it’s over you have only your memories and your photos.  Don’t you want the assurance that those photos will tell your story – your every special moment – as splendidly as the day was.

So – here are two compelling reasons NOT to hire that family member or friend:

Commitment – Professional photographers won’t flake out on you like a friend or relative, because they are obligated by contract to be there. They have backup systems, cards and batteries.  They know that equipment can fail, but that won’t stop them.  They are ready for that.  They are dedicated to doing a great job for you because they depend on your referrals to pay their bills.  Full time professionals are committed to doing the best job possible.  Would you hire an amateur to pull a tooth?

Experience – Professionals have spent thousands of hours photographing weddings.  They know how to get the best shots even in tricky lighting.   Professional photographers in other genre can struggle with weddings – weddings are a beast!  It’s a fast pace day, you have to know how to handle tricky situations like Aunt Betty and her I-pad up in the air, and then top in all with amateurs not knowing anything about posing. Professional experience is invaluable.  Your friend or relative doesn’t have that “experience” to predict or anticipate a special moment, and they don’t have the dedicated concentration to stay alert for special moments – like a mother’s admiring glance at her daughter getting married. 

RESULTS! – That’s what matter.   I love when couples look at their photos from a professional and many times they are surprised at the many funny and moving moments the photographer captured that they never witnessed.  An amateur isn’t going to capture them, and you’ll never know what you’ve missed.

Your wedding day only happens once!  Keep those precious memories and moments alive by NOT compromising on photography.  Cut the size of the cake, or the guest list – but keep the professional photographer – because you can savor those images for a lifetime.

 

100 Tips to Save Money on Your Wedding Budget

Your wedding budget should not be something you are paying off for the next 5 years!  There is a lot of pressure from family and friends to spend lots of money and I am here to tell you that you don’t have to!  Make your budget something you are comfortable with and not what your family and friends tell you.  Choose what’s important to you – and cut back on the less important items.

Here are 20 tips to save money.    If you like these, email us at Bride&BrideStLouis.com and we will send you the complete list of “100 Ways to Save on Your Wedding Budget.”

Here you go:

  1. One of the best ways to save money is to keep your guest list small.  If you are having 50 guests or less, there are places like Tuscany Gallery (www.TuscanyGalleryandEvents.com) that can host your wedding ceremony & reception for a very modest price, and it’s beautiful.
  2. Consider a different time of day for your wedding, such as morning or afternoon.
  3. Consider a buffet or family-style meal rather than a plated meal. You can also opt for a cocktail hour with appetizers rather than a formal dinner.
  4. Stick with flowers that are in season. Or buy flowers from wholesale places like Sams and make an casual arrangement yourself.
  5. Consider getting married during off-peak wedding season. June and October tend to be the most popular month for weddings.
  6. Print your own invitations at home. Also check out Creve Coeur Camera’s Business Express. They do beautiful invitations and other print material and can even address your envelopes!
  7. Purchase handmade items directly from the designer on places like Etsy–and cut out the middle man.
  8. Consider a wedding location that isn’t a traditional “wedding” location, such as apark, municipal building or school.
  9. Have less formal food options. Everyone loves comfort food and snacks! A new trend is to bring in a food truck. Also consider food stations, such as a hot dog station, taco bar, or salad station where guests can create and choose what appeals to them.
  10. Consider a wedding dress that is not from a traditional bridal store. Browse a major retailer or online store for white dresses at a good price. Watch next year for the 2nd “Run for the Dress” event, where thousands of dresses are sold here in St. Louis for 50% to 70% off the retail price.
  11. Think about saving money for your maids. Bridesmaid dresses can also be found at a discount store or outlet or have your bridal party wear something they already own all in the same color.
  12. Shop sample sales or go dress shopping while there are sales. This could mean shopping way ahead of time to get a good price.
  13. Consider doing your own hair or makeup. Or go to a makeup store and have a professional teach you how to apply a good look.
  14. Instead of buying something, consider renting it, with things such as a tuxedo. Or, consider a more relaxed look like casual dressy attire.
  15. Purchase silk flowers over real.
  16. Consider not having favors to cut down on costs or limit them to one per couple instead of one per person.
  17. Helium Balloons make for wonderful décor to add color to any basic banquet room.
  18. Use coupons to find deals on craft items, wedding supplies and accessories. Michaels many times has 40% off coupons.  You might have to make multiple purchases over several trips to get everything, but it’s a great way to save a lot.
  19. Ask friends to help out with anything they can contribute. Maybe one of them could even officiate the wedding.
  20. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to the wedding budget. The last thing you want is for him to go and splurge on something he wanted while you promised to make cutbacks on things you wanted. Marriage is all about compromise.