Choosing a Theme or Color for Your Wedding

Color Combinations for Weddings, BrideStLouis Wedding PlanningCongratulations to many of you that are newly engaged.  It’s an exciting time in your life and we want you not to stress over the task of planning your wedding.  While it is probably the biggest event that you ever orchestrated, just take it step by step like we discussed last week.

Remember that BrideStLouis.com can help guide and support you through your wedding planning journey with our easy wedding directory featuring thousands of premier wedding and bridal businesses.  In fact, we have over 2000 vendors listed in over 62 different categories.  In addition, our blog posts are always original, timely, and plentiful!  You can review over 450 blog posts that cover every detail of weddings by various categories as well.

Our new 2018 Free E-book “Wedding Planning for the 2018 Bride!” will be ready in just a few days.  Let us know if you would like to receive a copy by emailing us at bride@bridestlouis.com.

So, one of the first steps besides the budget is to choose a theme or color that best represents you – the bride and groom – as a couple.  There are many ways of doing this, like choosing a shared interest, favorite hobby or leisure time activity.  I’ve seen Lego Weddings, Book Theme weddings based for favorite books, Movie Themes, Country Weddings – you name it!  Some couples love to dance and they base their reception on that.

Some couples just choose a style – like Old World Elegance, Fairytale & Romance, or perhaps Seasonal Themes depicting their favorite time of year…a Winter Wonderland or a Fall Harvest Wedding.   A Harry Potter theme has happened as well as The Great Gatsby.

And then there is color.  Color can reflect your style and personality as well.

White – Purity, Innocence and Fresh Beginnings

Yellow – Wisdom, Happiness, Intellectual Energy

Pink – Love, Beauty, Fun Personality

Red – Strength, Health, Vitality

Blue – Youth, Peace, Tranquility

Green – Harmony, Balance, Flexible & Unique

Silver – Calmness, Elegance

Gold – Wealth, Power, Tending to Extravagance

Black – Sophisticated, Controlling, Perfectionist, Dominant

So – what’s your color and theme?  Be sure to share with us your ideas and we will post our favorite on Facebook next week.  Our favorite as voted by our staff will win four FREE tickets to our next bridal show at The Foundry Art Centre on February 18th, 2018.  Send you comments to Bride@BrideStLouis.com.

Welcome to 2018!

Welcome to 2018!

Congratulations to everyone who recently received an engagement ring, and to those who have started to plan their wedding.  We thought it would be a good time to post this survey we did last Fall with previous couples who were married about a year ago – discussing what was good and what they would do differently.

We call this the “REAL truth about Weddings in Retrospect” by couples looking back after their first year.

We’ve talked to 12 couples who were married about a year ago and asked them, in hindsight, what they thought about their wedding, what they would do differently, and what was their biggest disappointment.  Some of the weddings were large, elaborate affairs while others were smaller, more family oriented weddings.

Because most couples who are planning a wedding have no experience about planning and paying for a wedding, the number one answer that was the biggest concern for all couples was the actual cost of their wedding.  Eleven of the twelve couples said that it ended up being way more expensive than what they anticipated.    Most of them said that as their wedding day approached there was a lot of anxiety about having enough money to pay for everything as planned.  There were always extra expenses that were not anticipated.   Nine of the 12 couples said that if they had it to do over again, they would scale down the wedding about 50%.  One of the couples is still paying off the debt from the wedding – it’s a sore point as they want to save for a house.  Two of the couples felt that, while it was expensive, it was a once in a lifetime event which they would do over again in a heartbeat.   One of the brides loved every minute and expensive detail of her wedding at the time of the wedding, but now regrets spending so much of her parent’s money, as it caused a hardship on her family.    Had she and her parents talked more openly and truthful about the costs, she could now look back with better feelings about her wedding.  In hindsight, she feels that she was “selfish and overbearing” asking and getting everything no matter what it cost.

When asked about specific details on expenses, many mistakenly assumed they had to, for example, have a LIVE Band, or they HAD to have the Tall Centerpiece displays.  It was the expectations from others that lead them to spending MORE money than they needed to on certain items.   Interesting.  One couple that had a very simple wedding, did what they wanted and not what others felt they should do.  It was fun, and they enjoyed planning and working out all the details for a small, intimate wedding with about 50 guests.   They then had money left over for a fabulous honeymoon.   That’s a trend that’s really smart.

Other than concerns over money, most couples agreed that their wedding was the best day of their life.  Yes, they would change some things and focus more on what matter to them.

One thing they all agreed upon – they all thought the day passed by so quickly!

So, what does this all mean to you?  As you are planning your wedding, make sure to communicate and discuss your ideas, budgets, and desires.  We are a firm believer in making your wedding YOUR best day ever – being the kind of wedding that’s right for you.  Let’s us know how we can help you achieve your goals.  We love hearing from you.  Write to us at bride@BrideSTLouis.com.

Evaluating Your Relationship for the Long Term – Is he really the one?

Photo Credit: Rich Hawman, Elan Images

What makes for a great date and a great time may not be all you need for a long term great marriage. Check out these factors to see if your relationship has all the right stuff:

HUMOR

Does your guy make you laugh and lift your spirits?  A sense of humor can help you through some tough times and difficulties. 

CARES ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK and VICE VERSA

Does he really listen to you and consider your feelings?  Do you feel comfortable talking to him about problems that you have.  Can you trust him in difficult situations?  Does he show empathy, sincerity, and caring?   Good communication skills goes both ways.  Can you discuss your differences without becoming defensive or sarcastic?  Do you work together to find a solution?

BALANCE

Being together 100% of the time is not necessarily a good thing.  It’s important for each party in the relationship to participate at their own interests, sports, and hobbies.  It’s all about proper balance – a zealous personal interest might result in too much separation and less focus on your relationship. 

SHARING

And now just the opposite.  Do you share interests and hobbies?  Do you both like to travel, bike, read…whatever?  While opposites attractive, you need some type of “common interests” to keep the relationship alive and interesting.

EMOTIONAL MATURITY

Are you both ready to take responsibility in this new relationship to make it the best it can be?  Maturity in a relationship calls for modesty, some humility, and a balance self ego.  It’s now about “we” rather than “me”.    

If you scored a 5 – say “YES” march down that aisle!!!  You found a winner!

 

Wedding Planning – More About Choosing Your Wedding Date

A few weeks ago, we published a blog about getting married in 2018 and reviewed the 2018 calendar illustrating great dates for weddings in 2018.  (Click here to read that post again.)

Well, today we thought we would throw out some additional fun information about planning and choosing that wedding date.

The Chinese believe that any date that ends in an 8 are 9 are particularly lucky as 8 symbolizes infinity and 9 represents fulfillment.  Feng Shui claims that the 8th, 9th, 18th, 19th, 28th, and 29th are great wedding dates.  And alternatively, any date that adds up to 8 is good, like the 17th and 26th for example.  You can also research in a lot more detail what the Chinese consider auspicious dates which is very important in Chinese culture.  By choosing a good date you will be blessed with good luck in marriage.  It’s best to refer to their chart and know your zodiac sign   Check out www.yourchineseastrology.com for more information.

Marriage is one of our major events in life and Palmistry can predict when you get married.  Palmistry uses your marriage lines (the little lines on the edge of a palm below the pinkie) to tell you when you are most likely to get married.  These marriage lines may suggest whether you will get married early or late in life.  Have some fun and learn more at the same web site just listed in the above paragraph.

I decided to get married on my husband’s birthday because it was an easy date to remember.  You can also choose something like that or other easy dates such as 8/8/18.  It’s easy to remember and might be really lucky with all those 8s.

Another date that I particularly like is New Year’s Eve because it gives you an entire year of tax savings – file your taxes as MARRIED!  It’s also believed by the Irish to be a lucky date as the wedding couple starts the New Year as husband and wife.

The reason so many brides choose June is yes, because the weather is great.  But did you know that June is considered a good month for marriages since the month is named after Juno, the Roman Goddess of marriage.

And finally, there is a poem that can be your guide:

A January bride will be a prudent housekeeper and very good tempered

A February bride will be an affectionate wife and a tender mother

A March bride will be a frivolous chatterbox somewhat given to quarrelling

An April bride will be inconsistent or forceful but well-meaning

A May bride will be handsome, agreeable and practical

A June bride will be impetuous and generous

A July bride will be handsome but a trifle quick tempered

An August bride will be agreeable and practical as well

A September bride will be discreet, affable and much liked

An October bride will be pretty, coquettish, loving but jealous

A November bride will be liberal and kind but sometimes cold

A December bride will be fond of novelty, entertaining but extravagant”.

 

So, whatever you choose, let your heart be your guide

 

Brides who are “Mommies” Too!

 

In today’s weddings there are lots of brides who are also “Mommies.” I have seen first hand the challenge of meeting the needs of your children while trying to enjoy one of the biggest days of your life: your wedding day. Do yourself a favor, make sure to have lots of help with the little ones, and just focus on being a bride.

I’ve talked to a number of wedding planners and here are some tips that you might consider to make your day stress free and unforgettable:

First and foremost, you don’t have to have the traditional wedding with a big wedding party and a fancy reception with hundreds of guests. Many times when you have kids budgets are tight so a smaller wedding party and smaller reception will not only be cost effective but easier to coordinate.

Secondly; involve your kids, if they are old enough, in the planning. They could do a reading or even give you away. Younger kids are best as ringbearers or flower girls, and even consider having them pulled in a wagon if they are really young. Involve kids in the sand ceremony and perhaps have a special “gift” presented to them during the ceremony, as a token of their part in this new family.

Absolutely get someone to be in charge of the kids (especially those under 7 years of age) during your PREP TIME, ceremony, and reception. Just focus on being a bride, not a mommie, while you are saying your vows. Enlist the help of a friend or family member and be clear about their task ahead of time and make them TOTALLY in charge of the kids. Perhaps even in a separate area away from where you are preparing and getting ready.

Be realistic about your time, both as you are preparing for the wedding and the day of the wedding.  Don’t try to take on too much or it will all fall apart. Planning ahead to have help with the children will give you one less stress to worry about. Relaxed and happy mums make beautiful brides!

The Must Have “Barn Wedding” Checklist

Barns are the latest trend and rage these days for romantic, intimate weddings!  However, they come with their own set of challenges.  Unlike the standard banquet room, barns do have special opportunities and limitations.  Here are some things you might want to check out:

The Must Have “Barn Wedding” Checklist

  • How many guests can the barn comfortably accommodate?
  • What does the rental fee cover?  Some barn venues provide only the space.  Some provide tables, chairs, linens, and more.)  Be sure to ask.
  • Are there restrooms on site?  Are there enough to accommodate all your guests.  Where are they located.
  • Is the barn equipped with electricity or do you need to bring in a generator?
  • If there a plan for excessive heat or cold to keep your guests comfortable?
  • Is there get ready space for the wedding party.   If not, is there a hotel close by?
  • Does the venue have a liquor license?
  • What are the additional fees?
  • Does the venue have a list of preferred vendors?  Can you choose others that may not be on their list.
  • When can the vendors set up?  Can décor and rentals be picked up the next day. 
  • Is there an on-site wedding coordinator?
  • Is the barn rain-proof?  If you are planning an outdoor ceremony, is there a plan for weather contingencies.
  • Is there enough onsite parking space?  Can guests easily walk to the event area for the parking lot?
  • Is there room to play outdoor games?
  •  Are there great areas for scenic photography?
  • What other options are there such as bonfire, hay wagon, etc.?

Today weddings in a barn offer the bride and groom a chance to hold their wedding in a very personable and unique location. A barn wedding can be dressed up or dressed down to match the style and decor of your wedding and offer endless charm.

Photography compliments of J. Graeler Photography and Patrick Pope Photography.