14 Snippets of Ideas to Help When You are Writing Your Own Vows.

Writing Your Own Vows

If you and your partner have decided to write your own vows, and I hope you do, here are a few snippets of ideas to help you put into words what’s in your heart.  Be sure to write about what you love about your future spouse, and identify why you want to marry him/her.

  • Thank you for allowing me to walk my own path and become the best person I can be.
  • Thank you for helping me achieve my own personal dreams.
  • Thank you for teaching me to be a better, kinder person that has learned to  ….
  • I desire to make your life easier and better and share the good times and bad times.
  • Love Forever – That’s my promise.  You are my life.  I can’t imagine what my life would be without out you.  When you came into my world, my life began.
  • Together we will nap in the sun, walk in the  park, smile at our silly antics and indulge in the sweetness of the moment.
  • I promise to walk by your side hand in hand and be your partner for life.
  • I am grateful that you love me.
  • As we grow older together, I will grow in appreciation of all you do for me.
  • You are supportive, tender, loving, strong, dependable, kind, patient, understanding and most of all, you are my friend.
  • You are a remarkable person who has taught me so much.
  • I will be there to cheer you when times are tough.
  • I believe in you and love you and will support you in everything you reach for.
  • Let us travel the road of life together.  It will be our adventure to explore, taste and touch.  Let’s live life together every day.

The Ketubah – A Cherished Tradition

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In many Jewish weddings the ketubah is an integral part of the traditional Jewish marriage.  A ketubah is a printed document that outlines the rights and responsibilities of the groom in relation to the bride.  The ketubah explains the basic material, conjugal and moral responsibilities of the husband to his wife and it is signed by the groom and two witnesses and given to the bride during the wedding ceremony.  (Halachically, according to Jewish law, only two witnesses need to sign the ketubah and see the groom give the ketubah to the bride and she must accept it.)

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Its purpose was to protect the woman’s rights in case of divorce or death.  Ever since the 14th century it has become tradition to decorate the ketubah as artwork and hang it in the home as a keepsake.

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A few blogs back I talked about the potential of writing your own vows for your marriage ceremony.  I love this process of professing to each other how you feel and why you want to marry your partner.  Wouldn’t it be a wonderful thing to have these vows printed and hung prominently in your home?  Every time you feel angry or hurt, look at your vows in the framed art work and reflect on what’s really important.

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These examples of ketubahs are from http://www.ketubah.com and you don’t need to have a Jewish wedding to order one of these for your wedding vows.  They can customize the text and they have hundreds of exquisite examples on line.  I warn you, it will be hard to choose from so many beautiful choices.  Traditional, modern, vibrant, understated…if you can dream it up, you can find it here.  For more information, talk with Aliyah.  She is available by email aliyah@ketubah.com,  and by phone at 888-538-8224.  Also check out http://blog.ketubah.com for more information about Jewish weddings.




Writing your own Wedding Vows

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Not too many years ago the wedding couple traditionally said nothing more than “I do.”    Today, many couples choose to write their own vows and it can be very touching, memorable and dramatic.   It’s a more personal message between the bride and groom especially when they share their emotions and feelings with each other.

If you are considering going this route, and I hope you do, make sure to clear it with your officiate and discuss it with your future spouse to make sure everyone is on board with the idea.  Some religions may require you to use traditional wording and/or certain phrases.   You can choose to write your vows that you will say together as a couple, or you can choose to each write your own vows.

As you draft some ideas think about what is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry.  What do you want to promise to your marriage partner?  Some start with, “You are my best friend, the one I want to spend my life with.  I promise (or vow) to love and respect you, laugh with you, cry with you, and support you in all your endeavors.”   Feel free to quote from poetry, or books and even romantic movies.  Jot down words and phrases that capture your feelings.

Keep your vows short but full of meaning.  Finally, practice them before the big day.  While there is no rule again reading your vows, a heartfelt delivery will have an emotional impact on your partner and people witnessing the ceremony.

Your wedding vows are one of the most important parts of the ceremony, so take some time to speak your heart.