Not too many years ago the wedding couple traditionally said nothing more than “I do.” Today, many couples choose to write their own vows and it can be very touching, memorable and dramatic. It’s a more personal message between the bride and groom especially when they share their emotions and feelings with each other.
If you are considering going this route, and I hope you do, make sure to clear it with your officiate and discuss it with your future spouse to make sure everyone is on board with the idea. Some religions may require you to use traditional wording and/or certain phrases. You can choose to write your vows that you will say together as a couple, or you can choose to each write your own vows.
As you draft some ideas think about what is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry. What do you want to promise to your marriage partner? Some start with, “You are my best friend, the one I want to spend my life with. I promise (or vow) to love and respect you, laugh with you, cry with you, and support you in all your endeavors.” Feel free to quote from poetry, or books and even romantic movies. Jot down words and phrases that capture your feelings.
Keep your vows short but full of meaning. Finally, practice them before the big day. While there is no rule again reading your vows, a heartfelt delivery will have an emotional impact on your partner and people witnessing the ceremony.
Your wedding vows are one of the most important parts of the ceremony, so take some time to speak your heart.